The principles for a healthy prepper marriage are similar to the principles for any other healthy marriage but with the tremendous added complication that the spouses may be at different stages in the mental and emotional aspects of their respective preparedness journeys. In fact, in my experience it’s rare to find a prepper family where both both spouses are equally convinced of the need to prepare and consequently, equally committed to preparedness. Even if you and your husband or wife aren’t on exactly the same preparedness page you can use the techniques described here to strengthen your marriage and move towards more harmony in both your marriage and your preparedness life.
Family and Community Support is one of the ten fundamentals of our Full Spectrum Preparednes Doctrine and there is no relationship more important to individual and family happiness and fulfillment than a healthy marriage. If you and your spouse are mutually supportive and completely committed it also adds incalculable resilience to you both individually and to your family collectively. Just like a strong faith in God is a ‘force multiplier,’ a strong sense of faith in your marriage and each other will give you the strength to better handle life’s adversities.
Experts tell us that achieving and maintaining a healthy marriage is a process and you can use the following principals both to keep a great prepper marriage great or improve a marriage in jeopardy.
Where would you go if you had to leave your home on short notice due to a local, regional or larger disaster? You probably have family and friends who would be happy to put you up for a few days or a week…but where could you go if you needed refuge for weeks, months, or longer? Maybe you’ve even taken the steps necessary to build a Bug Out Bag, but where would you bug out too? That’s where a Prepper Compact can help you.
A Prepper Compact is an agreement where one party agrees to take in the other party in the event of disaster or a bug out situation. Compacts can be one way, reciprocal (between two parties) or mutual aid agreements among multiple parties. The Prepper Compact clearly states the expectations and responsibilities of each party in advance so that adequate planning and preparation can take place.
At a minimum a Prepper Compact should specify: Continue reading
There are no adequate substitutes for father, mother, and children bound together in a loving commitment to nurture and protect. No government, no matter how well-intentioned, can take the place of the family in the scheme of things.
President Gerald R. Ford
As the economy gets worse and many families return to multi-generational households we must remember that successfully forming, blending and combining families and households requires more than love… it requires communication, cooperation, sensitivity and tolerance. What does this have to do with a communist Easter egg hunt?
I’ve had a couple reminders of these family-forming (and transforming) challenges recently thanks to my daughters. If properly handled, the new blended or multi-generational (household) family offers many opportunities to meet or improve everyone’s situation and needs.
While my oldest daughter is considering moving her mother-in-law in and creating a multi-generational household with her new husband, my middle daughter is newly engaged and has already begun negotiations with her fiance on how they intend to raise their children…yeah… she’s much more mature than her dad was at that age.
I recently caught a snippet of conversation between two of my daughters that caught my ear… “they only do communist Easter egg hunts…” As you can imagine this strange statement piqued my interest so I asked my daughter what a communist Easter egg hunt is…
Andrew’s Note: Prepography reader Eduardo was kind enough to provide a Spanish translation for the sample language from our article on creating a Prepper Blood Chit. A Prepper Blood Chit is another way to assure your loved ones make it home safe after a disaster. Thanks Eduardo!
Here’s the Spanish for you…
FOR DAUGHTERS / FEMALES:
La portadora de este documento (cuya foto aparece en el dorso de esta tarjeta) es mi hija preciosa, [NAME], que ha estado estudiando en la Universidad de [Uni Name]. Ruego que la ayudes con comida, alojamiento, transporte y cualquier otra asistencia adicional que necesite para regresar a casa lo más pronto, y de la forma más segura, posible. Reugo que la trate como si fuera su propia hija.
Todos los que la ayudan a [Name] a regresar a casa serán recompensados. Si puede traerla a [Town & State], le recompensaré con alguno de lo siguiente: $1,000 en efectivo, 20 onzas troya de plata pura (.999) o comida suficiente para dos semanas; usted elige.
Gracias por adelantado por cualquier asistencia que pueda proveer,
SIGNATURE & Name
FOR SONS / MALES:
El portador de este documento (cuyo foto aparece en el dorso de esta tarjeta) es mi hijo amado, [NAME], que ha estado estudiando en la Universidad de [Uni Name]. Ruego que le ayudes con comida, alojamiento, transporte y cualquier otra asistencia adicional que necesite para regresar a casa lo más pronto, y de la forma más segura, posible. Reugo que le trate como si fuera su propio hijo.
Todos los que le ayudan a [Name] a regresar a casa serán recompensados. Si puede traerle a [Town & State], le recompensaré con alguno de lo siguiente: $1,000 en efectivo, 20 onzas troya de plata pura (.999) o comida suficiente para dos semanas; usted elige.
Gracias por adelantado por cualquier asistencia que pueda proveer,
SIGNATURE & Name
In Building a Bug Out Bag Part I we discussed why building a Bug Out Bag is important and what type of bag to select. In Part II we discussed the Transportation Items to consider, in Part III it was Water preparedness, in Part IV it was Food preparedness, in Part V we tackled Shelter, Clothing and Protection from the elements, in Part VI we considered Communications options, in Part VII we discussed Security Preparedness, in Part VIII we explored Financial & Identity preparedness and yesterday we in Part IX we discussed Health & Medical considerations for your Bug Out Bag. Today we’ll discuss Family and Community issues to consider while building a Bug Out Bag. Remember, this is your last ditch, carry on your back, walk away from trouble Bug Out Bag…not what you hope you can get to your bug out location if your car, SUV, or Oshkosh TPV makes it.
No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friends or of thine own were; any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee.
Today it’s traditional to take a break from the day-to-day and gather with family and friends to count our blessings. We face many challenges individually, as families, and as a nation, but no matter the challenges there are blessings to be counted…I urge you to do so.
Additionally, as you gather today remember that those you choose to spend this day with are likely those that you would gather with in the event of a disaster… for mutual aid, support and even survival. Family and Community Support is essential to preparedness.
Andrew J. Jackson
The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege.
One of Prepography’s readers recently asked “am I too old to prep?”
Before we answer this question let’s consider that maybe it’s better to think of preparedness as a multi-generational journey…the Matriarch or Patriarch takes the lead until they can’t anymore and then they pass the preparedness leadership (Chain of Command) on to the next generation. Preparedness efforts are most effective when they are group, especially family efforts.
This same concept applies if you are new to preparedness. If you are unable to lead your family’s efforts due to age or circumstance… hold a family meeting and choose another to lead the efforts… then help your family and the preparedness leader in every way you can. To return to our ‘journey’ metaphor…you may no longer be driving the bus, but you are along for the ride and can contribute immeasurably to your family’s preparedness in other ways.
Because you are a seasoned citizen you have a lifetime of resources available to help your family’s efforts. Consider your resources and contribute appropriately. Some of the resources you may be able to contribute are: Continue reading
Dangerous situations are no time for rule by committee. The time it takes to whip out your Roberts Rules of Order and ‘call the [first] question’ is enough time to lose your key preps to fire or theft or worse… someone in your family or preparedness group could be injured or killed. Today’s discussion is on the necessity of a Preparedness Chain of Command.
“Chain of Command” is a military term for the clearly defined leadership hierarchy where a single leader is in charge of all efforts by a unit and/or within an area of operations. Subunits or echelon’s each have their leader who must answer to the next higher leader. An non-military example of a chain of command is the Roman Catholic Church where the Pope (senior leader) works through his cardinals (lower echelon leaders) who lead through their bishops (still lower echelon leaders) who in turn lead through the parish priests to eventually reach the congregants.